Getting through teenage years inflicts lots of confusion and a turmoil of emotions. The hormones are acting up and we're trapped between childhood and adulthood. Tracing through our 20's is a different story. We are officially a young adult. This is also a good time for self-discovery to prepare for the next chapter of our life that will entail bigger responsibilities. I just had my birthday and that made me inspired to share the top 10 things that I've learned throughout my 20's.
*Sigh* who wants to age, say ME!.
(hears faint sounds of crickets and frogs...)
Just what I thought, no one J
But aging is inevitable, we are all given one lifetime to live and it's up to us to use our time wisely. I've compiled the top 10 things that I've learned (some the hard way) throughout my 20's, which may be helpful to some who are just starting the young adult phase.
1.)
There’s a saying
that what you enjoy as a child is what you really wanted to do in the future.
So to uncover who you are, look back on your childhood. On my journey to
self-discovery, I find this statement true. As a child, I love to draw. I don’t
care whatever medium I’m going to use or whatever canvas is available (sorry
about your office papers dad J), I’m
going to sketch everything that comes in my mind. I also have a penchant for
creating short stories with illustrations. Mostly scary and things that I find
funny. Art was a big part of my life, I can even attest that art saved me many
times. That’s why right now, I’m venturing the writing and art industry, ‘cause
this is what I yearned. Lesson learned, NEVER FORGET WHAT YOU LOVE AS A CHILD,
that might be the key to a blossoming and happy career.
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| Never forget what you love as a child. (c) to the image. |
2.)
By the time that
I was able to pay my own expenses and make life changing decisions, I was
engulfed with the responsibilities that surrounds it. I want to hustle hard for
my dream career, like Mad Max on the highway, never stopping, never looking
back. There was a time that my office shift started in the evening and I forgot
that there’s fun under the sun. Totally oblivious of my environment, I buried
myself with work loads and eventually, became a robotic zombie – not exactly a
dream of mine. To sum it up, all work and no play makes me a dull girl. So to
make things better, I took baby steps. A camaraderie party here, a wedding
there. Team building pig-outs here, a romantic dinner there. Back in my school days, I was a social butterfly, and guess what, though I’m an introvert
by nature, I somehow enjoyed it (with people that I'm comfortable with, of course). Right now, my old fun loving self is back and
I’m in it to relish it. So NEVER FORGET TO HAVE FUN!
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| Never forget to have fun. (c) to the image. |
3.)
I have this
unconscious belief that I’m invincible. I know I’m not an Elf from The Lord of
the Rings but a part of me thinks that only silver can kill me. Not until I had
my eyes checked and my doctor told me about my vision. Don’t get me wrong, I’m
not turning Helen Keller but I’m a few steps away to Blurry Wonderland. That’s
enough wake up call for me to pump-up my game when it comes to healthcare. I’m noticing a few changes in my biology due
to adulthood and I’m paying close attention. We cannot avoid death but it
doesn’t hurt TO CARE FOR YOUR HEALTH and live a longer life. Exercise is now a
part of my life and so is eating healthy.
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| Care for your health. (c) to the image. |
4.)
“If we could
just be children’s forever”, says any stressed adult who is meeting a deadline
at work. I’m only human and I admit that
I’ve told this to myself once or twice. What I found to be therapeutic for me
when my environment turns into an action-packed movie is by going somewhere far
away. I’m a nerd and I like to stay at home and chill but there comes a time
that gaming, movie and TV series marathons doesn’t work. When that time of need
comes, a heavy-duty relaxing machine is
needed. To me, that equals to travelling. When I travel, my senses are working
double time. A new sight, a new smell and a new taste. It recharges me so TO
TRAVEL IS A MUST.
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| To travel is a must. (c) to the image. |
5.)
I learned a lot
from my dear friend Prime. We had great times. My small circle of friends back
in highschool was way matured beyond their age. We used to stay in the classroom when class is
over and talk about a lot of things. Life, love, religion, you name it. Prime was my classmate when I was in highschool and he had proved a lot not just to
his loved ones but to the LGBT community as well. He was gay and proud of it.
He can sing, he can dance, he’s intelligent and he shares my belief in God. After
graduating from highschool, he went to the states and pursued his college
degree. We still have communication from time to time but seldom talk. And then
the news came that he passed away. We were all in shock. I was in disbelief, he
was too young to go. After that, the emotion turned into sadness. People die,
that’s a simple fact. But death is too cinematic to some of us, it seems unreal.
Since he passed away, I learned TO CHERISH MY FRIENDS MORE. As long as you came
in my life, we had a special bond, you will be treasured.
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| To cherish friends more. (c) to the image. |
6.)
Yes it’s true
that in time, you and your bestfriend/s may drift apart. Time brings lots of
changes so there are many factors to it. It may be because of geographical
reasons, being busy with adult life or you both grew up as very different
individuals with an opposite lifestyle and personality. But, if your best buddy
is a real friend, your friendship will stand the test of time. REAL FRIENDS
STAY no matter what.
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| Real friends stay, no matter what. (c) to the image. |
7.)
I remember the
first time I had a mobile phone. I was 10 years old, my parents spend most of
their time in the office so communication is important. But it was until I was
13 years old that I understood the power of a new gadget. A new mobile phone
was introduced to the family and as my 13 year old self held the piece of
technology, I was astonished. Years later, I cannot remember how many mobile
phones have entered my life. But one thing is for sure, I change it every
year. I’m not saying that changing
gadgets to be up-to-date with technological advancement is wrong, what I
realized is that MATERIAL THINGS FADES in time so we should invest with things
that lasts like memories with loved ones.
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| Material things fades. (c) to the image. |
8.)
I named my favorite Barbie doll, Tarla. She has perfect hair and makeup, she wears nice
clothes, she has her own car, her own house and a chic job. I guess as a kid, I
always wanted to be the girl who’s independent and in-charge. Along the way,
things went uphill and then rolled downhill and then points uphill again.
To make it short, my life was a hell of
a roller coaster ride. But the ride was worth the scare. Taught me what I
wanted and what I needed to do in order to get it. With all the highs and lows
and a couple of bumps here and there, I’m glad that I made it. INDEPENDENCE
RULE.
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| Independence rule. (c) to the image. |
9.)
Problems are
unavoidable. Even the richest man in the world have problems. We cannot avoid
problems but we can avoid negativity. Negativity may appear in our life in the
form of someone, something, a situation or our mentality. If problems are inevitable,
why should we gravitate to negative circumstances? Throughout the years, I’ve learned that we can let it go. If it’s
something that we’re having a hard time letting go, like a job or a person then
slowly, find a way to set it free, or set it on fire (kidding!). Just AVOID
NEGATIVITY, stay away from it stay away from it like a plague.
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| Avoid negativity. (c) to the image. |
10.)
Time flies fast.
It seems yesterday I was just 16, studying, fan girling and self-discovering.
In the blink of an eye, I’m a full-fledged woman. We can buy material things,
movie and concert tickets, or even a new look, but we can’t buy time. Ever. Once
it’s gone, it’s gone forever. So I learned TO SPEND TIME WISELY. Every second
counts.
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| Spend time wisely. (c) to the image. |
Thank you,
